VP title. Multi-million dollar budgets. Four kids. A calendar so full it looked like a competitive sport. I said yes to everything. Stayed late. Fixed every problem. Became the success story.
And I kept waiting for someone to finally say: "You're doing great. I see you." It never came. So I worked harder. And harder. Until I looked in the mirror one day and couldn't answer a simple question: Who am I?
I'd cry in my car during lunch breaks. Then walk back into meetings with a perfect smile. I thought if I just worked harder, stayed later, said yes one more time, they'd finally see me. They never did. And one day I realized: I'd lost myself chasing someone else's approval.
Years chasing
validation
Times I asked
what I wanted
Question that
changed everything
One day I looked in the mirror and didn't recognize myself. Not physically. Deeper than that. I asked: Who am I? Not who everyone needs me to be. Not the VP. Not the employee of the month. Not the woman who handles everything. Who am I?
I didn't have an answer. And that silence broke something open in me.
I went back to basics. Cleared the clutter, literally and mentally. Stopped saying yes to everything. Started asking what I actually wanted instead of what everyone else needed from me.
Then I made a decision: I'm going to prioritize the people and things that actually matter. My relationship with my husband. One-on-one time with each of my kids. My own health and sanity. Everything else had to earn its place.
What started as survival became a system. I figured out what actually worked: stabilize first, then transform. One area at a time. No more trying to fix everything at once.
I'm not going to tell you my life is perfect now. It's not. But I wake up knowing I'm living MY life. Not performing someone else's version of it. That's what I teach now. Because if it worked in my chaos, it can work in yours.
VP-level experience managing multi-million dollar budgets and complex teams. I know how to build systems that work under pressure.
I built this framework while raising four kids, managing a demanding career, and maintaining a marriage. If it works in my chaos, it works.
Years of training, courses, and coaches shaped my thinking. But what I teach comes from applying it all in real life, not just learning it in a classroom.
We've been sold a lie that we can have it all if we just work harder, wake up earlier, optimize better. That's not transformation. That's torture dressed up as productivity.
Real transformation doesn't start with doing more. It starts with stabilizing what you have. Then, from a place of strength instead of desperation, you can actually change your life.
Start with the daily practice. See what stabilization actually feels like.
